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Friday, February 11, 2005 

Those stupid dinosaurs came back to bite me.

The comments are working again, and I have moved everyones over from my site, thanks guys. And sorry, my blog got mixed up, I will fix it know so my dinosaur story makes sense. I have reposted my blog sorry, you all must have thought I was an idiot!


Having failed so many times in my life at so many different things I have picked my life heroes very carefully. On the top of my list is President Abraham Lincoln. All his failures make me realize that life is not so bad. As I was thinking about the topic this week, I remembered a quote by Lincoln that I love.

"If I were to try to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business. I do the very best I know how - the very best I can; and I mean to keep doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, what's said against me won't amount to anything. If the end brings me out wrong, ten angels swearing I was right would make no difference."


And that's all I have to say on the matter. OK its not, you all know I am long winded, so here it goes. I quoted Lincoln here because of the phrase "I do the very best I know how- the very best I can, and I mean to keep doing it until the end" Having failed so badly at life, I love his attitude. I love the fact that he does the best he can. Some people may have a more clear understanding of right and wrong, some people may have a better capacity to select the right choices, and there are some that are great at learning from making the wrong choices. My suggestion to all is to do the very best they know how to, and keep doing it to the end. On top of President Lincoln's words I add to always strive to do better, to be better, and to make your own life and those around you better.

We all have some knowledge of right and wrong. We all have the ability to pick right over wrong. I believe that in general we are doing alright. We are not perfect, but there is a lot of good being picked over evil in this world. There are times when we all fall; there are moments of weakness that become defining points in our lives. A lot of times we focus on the negative, and the wrong we have done. It is better to focus on the lessons we have learned. The strengths we have developed to overcome our weaknesses, and our wrong choices. I think if we were to ask JP if she is a strong person for having been through what she has been through, I bet she would say yes. I am sure that anyone reading this could share the ways that they have been strengthened by having made unfortunate mistakes in their lives. As the old adage goes, "The Glory of man is to rise each time we fall".

I do not think it is a question of knowing right from wrong, or knowing right and hoosing right, I think it is a question of are we raising each time we fall? Because you would have to be an idiot to think that we are not going to fall.

Now as to the title. Oh the infamous dinosaur incident of the first grade. I remember it like it was yesterday, and not some 25 years ago. Mrs. Miller had just let us go to recess, and P.M and I acted like we were going out to play. But really we were not. We were plotting to steal the plastic dinosaurs from one of our classmates, which he had left in his bag in the coat closet. Did we know that taking something that did not belong to us was wrong? Well after we got caught that was our excuse, but I can say now, yes, yes we knew it was wrong, and we still did it. We got about three days worth of excitement out of those dinosaurs. But the entire time I had a nagging sickness in my stomach. That misdirection of good choices in my life weighed as hard on me as any wrong doing I have done since. I was literally sick. Of course there can the fateful day a few days later when my dad got the call from P.M.s dad and he marched me across the street and the four of us sat down and discussed what had happened. I remember the first cover was to lie, lie and lie some more, anything to get out of trouble. But the guilt built more and more. The nagging sickness worsened very second. And then it hit. The reason I was getting sick. I had let my dad down. He had taught me that it was wrong to take something that did not belong to me, and I did it. I was in tears and scared to death, was my dad going to hate me for life? That was all I could think about, (that and what was going to happen when my mom, the enforcer of rules in our home was going to do to me). Well the dinosaurs were returned, some sort of shamed apology was made to E.B. and over the course of a few weeks the incident slowly went away, except for my brother making fun of me for it for years after that. I remember trying extra hard to return to my fathers grace over those weeks. Trying to be extra good, and do what I was told. I somehow made it back into my dads favor. Of course now that I look back at the meaningless incident that took place 25 years ago I was never out of my father's grace. He may have been disappointed in my decision, but he never stopped loving me. So it is with our family and friends, and with our God, we make mistakes and we fall, but they never stop loving us, (unless they are dead beats, in which case, I still love you). I fully believe that there comes a great joy for our family and friends to see us rise and over come. So to sum up my thoughts, I say this: None of us are perfect, we make mistakes, but you have to rise above them. You can not dwell on them, you can learn from them, but don't dwell. Take the lessons you learned write them in a journal, talk about them with a friend, but do not dwell on your mistakes from the past. And never think you are a bad person for having made a mistake, "To err is human, but to forgive is divine," and we always have to forgive ourselves for our short comings. I had a seminary teacher who used to yell to us as we left the building BABU, everyday, BABU, without fail BABU. A very simple phrase, with a lot of power. Be A Better You.

Love you all and have a fantastic weekend!

PS to the Faulconers: I would like you both to sing "Love at Home" prior to
leaving any comments here.

Comments are back up!

Awesome Kaycee... now if we could only transfer the discussion.

Comment By Becca:

Cameron. I couldn't agree more. To dwell on our mistakes seems self
loathing and self loathing seems selfish. Like you, I look at the mistake,try and figure out what it was that I have done wrong and do everything I can to correct my behavior, sometimes it takes me more then once to figure it out, but we must try and try again.
If you really want to BABU (acronyms are so annoying - ever since EVOO, extra virgin olive oil - I just cant stand listening to you Rachel Ray) then
you don't have time to dwell, right? You only have time to move on and
improve.

Per your request:

There is beauty all around
When there's discussion at VSoM
There are lessons in every comment
When there's discussions at VSoM
Learning much from every side
Time at work does swiftly glide
When there's discussions at VSoM

Christian, thank you for the wonderful discussion yesterday. You are still
my favorite oldEST brother. Cameron, you are still my favorite wanna be my
brother.

SANDY Commented:
Thanks for the post, Cameron. This one seems like the most logical to me...being that I am not LDS. When we learn from our choices (right or wrong) and take responsibility for the consequences, it truly is a blessing in disguise.

Sandy

At 10:50 AM, Rebecca said...
Sandy,

I love that you add to the conversations. It is really wonderful to hear things from an investigator point of view.

R.

At 11:00 AM, Suzie Petunia said...
Nice post, Cameron.

All of your lovely quotes reminded me of what my dad would say every day when he dropped us off at school: "Be good. Do good. But, if you have to make a choice, be good." I'm embarrassed to say this, but it wasn't until I was out of high school that I figured out what he meant.

At 11:39 AM, Star said...
Cameron- I love the Abe Lincoln quotes. What a great man! I think your positive attitude is great and I agree that there is a lot of good being picked over evil. Sometimes it's hard to see, but it's there, in the little things.

Suzie- I really like your dad's saying. very cool.

At 11:53 AM, Cameron said...
Sandy, you mentioned something that I wanted to include and that is responsibility. If we are going to be “grown up” enough to make a descision, then we need to being willing to take some of the responsibility. I was in a management seminar last December and the guy said something really interesting, he said if these go wrong as a manager, you take responsibility, if things go right, give someone else the credit. When I make a right choice, I like to give my parents and teachers and friends the credit, but I need to man up if I mess up.

At 12:22 PM, Anonymous said...
Suzie - I like your dad's saying too...My mom had one too; but it went something like this:

"Be good...and if you can't be good, be good at it!"

She was such a rebel.

Sandy

At 12:37 PM, JP said...
I always love your posts, Cam...and you're right. I am a stronger person. For the longest time, I could not forgive myself for the mistakes I had made in my life. That was a huge burden I placed on myself...and I didn't know how to let it go. Something I had to learn and do.

Coincidentally, one of my favorite sayings is from good 'ol Abe, too: "If you look for the good in people, ye shall surely find it." Which is actually good advice for all of us...especially looking for the good in ourselves.

BABU, everyone...BABU.

OK, so I re-pasted my post so it should make a little more sense.

I agree that one question is are we going to rise up after falling? In addition though, we do have to ask ourselves what we can do to stop from falling so much.

Great post Cameron. I was just reading "Mere Christianity" by CS Lewis and it is very interesting in light of the discussion on VSoM this week. I think it is interesting to look at the influence that our families have on the decisions that we make and how we feel about those decisions.

Rebecca: you are my favorite younger sister who is older than my youngest sister.

I really hate coming after you, Cameron. Why you gotta be so smart? I FULLY agree with the responsibility thing. If I'm going to talk the talk, I've gotta walk the walk...I think Abe said that, too.

Cameron... Very nice. This sounds just like a Sacrament talk. Is it???

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This Week's Topic:

  • The Sabbath Day

Various Authors

  • Monday:
    Kaycee opted out of Mormondom 4 years ago. She calls herself agnostic.
  • Tuesday:
    Sarah is not your average Gospel Doctrine Teacher.
  • Wednesday:
    Carrie Ann comes from pioneer stock, and lives in Provo, but is open minded and fair.
  • Thursday:
    Ned Flanders hasn't been to church in a while, but maintains an interest in all things Mormon.
  • Friday:
    John C. is an academic with a sense of humor and a testimony.
  • Saturday:
    JP's not going to church and feeling okay about it.

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