I’m okay singing in the car with nobody around. And there are a few songs that I can handle decently, a precious few rock songs I’ve heard a million times and are just suited to my voice. Most everything else, I’m lost. I’m sure Kaycee is on the money, if I had a heavy dose of ignorance I wouldn’t know or care that I can’t sing. But I played violin for a number of years, got to the point where I wasn’t terrible at it but I never had a feel for the instrument or the music. I watched other kids advance and handle the instrument as if it was part of them. The instrument and the music, after years of playing, were still a foreign object and foreign language.
Some hymns, it doesn’t matter if you can’t sing, they don’t need to be sung well; they just need people to sing them. Many, however, need passable singing; such hymns, trying to sing them is monstrous unpleasant, the entire time knowing I’m off-key and not knowing how to sing it right. So I don’t care for singing in church. I try to sing the hymns to set an example for the kids. The example usually turns into singing in a goofy voice and catching a quick elbow to the gut from VL for not taking things seriously. At the very least, I get a good chuckle out of it.