You just haven’t earned it yet, baby
These shining examples contributed to my wanting to get away from the Mormon church forever. Eventually I realized that the people weren’t the church, the church wasn’t even the church, and that I shouldn’t judge everything on the basis of a few wacky apples and other common foibles bound to arise from a culture that constantly reminds itself that it is God’s Chosen Culture. I still expect too much from the church. Some of that comes from my career, which has weeded out the knuckleheads so effectively that I spend the day around people who are generally very capable, responsible, and charitable. Sure they have their imperfections, but they aren’t claiming any moral high ground, either. And I often find myself looking to their examples but I can’t help thinking, “I’m kind of a lazy knucklehead. Shouldn’t I be looking to the Mormons instead of a bunch of drunken atheists?”
And that’s why I just can’t expect perfection from anyone. It invites judgments that shouldn’t be made, disappointment, division, pride and all that. It’s a miserable life to give too much weight to imperfection. In truth, in every ward I’ve been in I’ve encountered one or two couples that are just excellent examples in all aspects of life and I suppose that I need to stop wishing that the rest of us (that’s including myself) would handle things as well as they do. And I’m stopping here, as here is where I was about to repeat what my fellow VSoMers have written this week.