I married my sister
It may just be me, but Mormon culture, in encouraging early marriage, the whole thing seems romanticized. You meet, you fall in love, some feeling from on high gives you a thumbs-up and you get married. It’s done without every really knowing the other person, without knowing what kind of person they really are. And with a lot of people in college now, you haven’t really become anyone yet until after college, until you’ve started down the career path. In just a short amount of time you can become a vastly different person. That transition can put a real strain on marriage, and the younger you marry, the further you are from becoming who you will become.
Reading the posts from Sarah and Carrie Ann, they approached marriage with much more wisdom than I did. I think waiting is good advice, but not something that must be done. I wonder, in Mormon culture, the encouragement to marry young, what really is the reason behind it? The cynic in me says that it’s designed to get people in a church sanctioned intimate relationship before they “mess up” and get into non-sanctioned intimate relationships. And also, I think it’s much easier to stay active in the church once you are married. I don’t have time to look them up, but the numbers should be out there, and the scientist in me wants to know, is there any real advantage to marrying young or waiting?
If you are wondering, I didn’t marry my sister. I’m in a rush and I couldn’t come up with a more fitting title. But I guess since people in church called her Sister VL, then she was my sister. Weird