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Wednesday, November 02, 2005 

Rebecca's* Story

When I was younger, one of my friends from church had parents who were divorced. Rebecca's* dad cheated on her mom, so she divorced him. In my opinion, that was the right thing to do.

Unfortunately for Rebecca's mom, brothers and sisters, other people did not agree. Several women in the ward refused to let their husbands home teach her. Some people wouldn't even let their kids go over to their house. Apparently they thought that since she was single and looking that she'd look anywhere.

My dad was their home teacher and I was glad. I was glad that their family trusted ours and Rebecca and I were friends until and through our time at BYU.

She would frequently tell me about how some person or another had done something or said something where her family was treated differently because her mom was divorced. Sometimes I found it hard to believe, but people do thoughtless and heartless things all of the time without ever realizing it.

Rebecca called me a couple of weeks ago to reconnect. She was coming into town from Utah and wanted to hang out. She'd gotten married in the temple before I left Utah and that was the last I'd heard from her. She let me know that she's now divorced.

I didn't delve into the reasons for her divorce over the phone... I figured she'd let me know if she wanted me to know. She did tell me that she hasn't been going to church but she was starting to go again.

I was really saddened that she'd had to go through that, while she still carried so much pain from her own parents' relationship issues. I hope that she won't be treated the way her family was when she was growing up.

I think that divorce is terrible for children and terrible for the people involved. This isn't true in every case, though. Sometimes the only thing worse than divorce, though, is staying together.

*Names changed to protect identities.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's parents and her own divorce. I'm also sorry that Mormons could be so thoughtless and judgemental like that. It's not what they're supposed to do but they do it anyway. It really shows just how shallow and weak their own testimonies are. I am disgusted by their callous treatment of your friend's mother.

My sister is going through a divorce right now. After 11 years of marriage and two children, her husband has decided that he is gay. It is a painful situation. It does not help that members of her ward, not understanding what is going on, keep encouraging her to try to work it out with him. And once she does tell them what is going on, they of course have no idea what to say, which is understandable. What is not understandable is the fact that they all have started avoiding her, as though she has a disease they don't want to catch.

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This Week's Topic:

  • The Sabbath Day

Various Authors

  • Monday:
    Kaycee opted out of Mormondom 4 years ago. She calls herself agnostic.
  • Tuesday:
    Sarah is not your average Gospel Doctrine Teacher.
  • Wednesday:
    Carrie Ann comes from pioneer stock, and lives in Provo, but is open minded and fair.
  • Thursday:
    Ned Flanders hasn't been to church in a while, but maintains an interest in all things Mormon.
  • Friday:
    John C. is an academic with a sense of humor and a testimony.
  • Saturday:
    JP's not going to church and feeling okay about it.

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