I actually took lessons for a pretty long time--3 years and then I was off for a year, then another 2 years (all before I turned 14). I should have been a pretty decent player with all of that training... all those lessons... but I wasn't. In fact, I was pretty bad.
I told this kid that I stopped playing because it was just too hard for me (I later attributed my difficulty to the fact that I can't keep a beat--clapping in a crowd, I will still get off beat). He said, "So you gave up?" And I realized... I had broken the rule. You can't tell kids that they're allowed to give up on things.
I tried to explain to him that if you really try at something and you aren't good at it, don't enjoy it and it isn't essential for success in life, it's better to give up. I'm not sure if that's the message he got from our converstation, but it's the one I tried to convey.
If you're not good at it, you don't enjoy it and you don't have to have it to be successfull... then you're allowed to give up. Is this good advice or bad advice? Something tells me that there are situations I'm not thinking of where you have to tell someone that they can't give up. I've tried thinking them up, but, following my own advice, I give up.
Posted by Kaycee.