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Monday, March 20, 2006 

Quitter

A couple of years ago I was talking to this kid, a boy, about 13 or 14 years old. We were talking about some random things and it came up that I used to play the piano.

I actually took lessons for a pretty long time--3 years and then I was off for a year, then another 2 years (all before I turned 14). I should have been a pretty decent player with all of that training... all those lessons... but I wasn't. In fact, I was pretty bad.

I told this kid that I stopped playing because it was just too hard for me (I later attributed my difficulty to the fact that I can't keep a beat--clapping in a crowd, I will still get off beat). He said, "So you gave up?" And I realized... I had broken the rule. You can't tell kids that they're allowed to give up on things.

I tried to explain to him that if you really try at something and you aren't good at it, don't enjoy it and it isn't essential for success in life, it's better to give up. I'm not sure if that's the message he got from our converstation, but it's the one I tried to convey.

If you're not good at it, you don't enjoy it and you don't have to have it to be successfull... then you're allowed to give up. Is this good advice or bad advice? Something tells me that there are situations I'm not thinking of where you have to tell someone that they can't give up. I've tried thinking them up, but, following my own advice, I give up.

Posted by Kaycee.

You didn't quit. You acknowledged reality and adapted.

Pursuing an activity that is beyond us is wasteful. It keeps us from developing other talents. It wastes our time and that of our instructors.

I say "God allows U-Turns. I changed my mind."

My mom had thirteen years of piano lessons until her parents discovered that she wasn't merely tone deaf, she hears "wrong" (so that if she plays things so they sound right, they sound wrong).

Her twin sister pointed it out.

I found out she played piano when I was back from my mission and my mom sat down at a piano and started playing church hymns. Those she could do.

There is a time to stick with it, and a time to move on I guess.

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This Week's Topic:

  • The Sabbath Day

Various Authors

  • Monday:
    Kaycee opted out of Mormondom 4 years ago. She calls herself agnostic.
  • Tuesday:
    Sarah is not your average Gospel Doctrine Teacher.
  • Wednesday:
    Carrie Ann comes from pioneer stock, and lives in Provo, but is open minded and fair.
  • Thursday:
    Ned Flanders hasn't been to church in a while, but maintains an interest in all things Mormon.
  • Friday:
    John C. is an academic with a sense of humor and a testimony.
  • Saturday:
    JP's not going to church and feeling okay about it.

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